Part one of this series covered whether you – as a mentee – are ready to carry out the work, as it is not easy-going; while part two discussed clarifying what you hope to achieve, as well as the type of mentor you are looking for.
Part three follows on with the critical stage of approaching your possible mentor the right way.
The approach
Before you ask
Like any relationship, don’t go in cold and ask someone to be your mentor – get to know him or her first. For example, ask him or her for an informal chat over coffee.
It is just not about getting to know the person; it is about assessing his or her ability to mentor and whether you connect with him or her.
You can also ask to meet him or her again before formally asking.
Mastering the ask
Let’s say you feel you have found the right person – how do you ask?
It starts with asking him or her to be your mentor in a specific area. Something similar to:
“I can see you’re a great team leader and I’m stepping into a management role for the first time. Are you open to working with me over the next year to become a great team leader; to act as my mentor?”
Then, if he or she is open to it, articulate what it looks like to you and ask for feedback.
It is best to be on the same page from the start – otherwise, confusion could arise about expectations and commitments later on.
- Part four will cover what a mentoring relationship requires to be successful.
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